Monday, July 20, 2009
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Do You Want to Stop Worrying and Start Living and Feeling Alive?
Are you worrying about something right now? Are you? If you want to learn how to stop worrying please read on.
I write about what I know and what I have experienced. I do this because if I can turn my situation around, just about anyone can.
I am a recovering alcoholic, sober for 25 years. I had multiple problems to overcome to gain my sobriety. Worrying was one of those problems. My mother was a big worrier. She worried about everything and raised her children to be worriers, too. I worried so much that it crippled me mentally and emotionally. I manufactured things in my mind to worry about, problems that had nothing to do with my reality. I discovered that this triggered my drinking. I later learned that worrying is negative goal setting and by concentration on negative goals, I was bringing those bad events into my reality. Once I understood this, I really wanted to change.
I knew that I had to stop worrying, but I did not know how to start. Does this sound like you? Let me share with you how I did it. Do you ever worry about things that have happened to you in the past? When we think about a past event we are concerned how this will play out in our future. The past is dead. The only thing you can bring with you from the past are lessons, but only if you are willing and open to learn and change. If you stay stuck in the past, you miss your present life completely. You simply go through the motions of life, but you are not living. Let's decide right now that since we can't change the past you will not concentrate on it.
If you don't worry about the past, do you worry about the present? Probably not. If we have a problem in the present moment we are usually actively dealing with it. If you are concerned about your present, ask yourself a few questions. Am I hungry, am I warm, do I have shelter, and am I in pain? If your answer to any of those questions is yes, your first actions should be to pursue a course to improve your situation. You must take care of yourself first. If your answers are appropriate, then all is well with you and you are free to deal with any outside issues.
If we don't worry about the past and we are presently doing fine, then what do we worry about? The future. It is a time and space that is not promised to us. I found that the only way to stop worry about my future was to actively prepare for it in the present time and space. Spend your time working on the solution to the situation that could occur in your future. An example: You have lost your job and not made a mortgage payment in two months. Any cash you have goes toward food. You are worried that you and your family will end up on the street. What happens three months from now if you worry and do absolutely nothing about your situation? Yes, you and your family could end up on the street. Instead of worrying, spend your time working on a solution to your problem and this will not happen to you and your family. If you believe in god, there is a saying. GOD does not move parked cars. Get moving, believe, if blindly and magic will begin to happen.
To stop worrying, spend your time working on a solution to the problem and even more importantly, think about how wonderful the solution will be. When you think about the solution, by all means feel really good about it. Get your emotions involved in the solution? Take baby steps if you must. This is how you do that. The moment you catch yourself worrying-stop and concentrate on the solution you want to occur for you. Think, visualize, picture the best outcome in your mind and feel great about it. Hold that thought for as long as you can. Make it a picture show in your mind. You will enjoy your movie. After all you have a negative movie running when you worry.
We do not worry about the past or present; we only worry about the future. Only you can change your future. You cannot have two emotions going at the same time. Worry and fear or joy and peace. You can worry or you can think positively about the best solution and feel good about it. You decide.
Albert Einstein said: "Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attraction."
This article may be passed on to anyone however, keep the contact information in place.
If you would like to see how Harriette makes her income click here.
Love, tolerance and peace,
Harriette Blye
You are worth a Million Bucks!
I write about what I know and what I have experienced. I do this because if I can turn my situation around, just about anyone can.
I am a recovering alcoholic, sober for 25 years. I had multiple problems to overcome to gain my sobriety. Worrying was one of those problems. My mother was a big worrier. She worried about everything and raised her children to be worriers, too. I worried so much that it crippled me mentally and emotionally. I manufactured things in my mind to worry about, problems that had nothing to do with my reality. I discovered that this triggered my drinking. I later learned that worrying is negative goal setting and by concentration on negative goals, I was bringing those bad events into my reality. Once I understood this, I really wanted to change.
I knew that I had to stop worrying, but I did not know how to start. Does this sound like you? Let me share with you how I did it. Do you ever worry about things that have happened to you in the past? When we think about a past event we are concerned how this will play out in our future. The past is dead. The only thing you can bring with you from the past are lessons, but only if you are willing and open to learn and change. If you stay stuck in the past, you miss your present life completely. You simply go through the motions of life, but you are not living. Let's decide right now that since we can't change the past you will not concentrate on it.
If you don't worry about the past, do you worry about the present? Probably not. If we have a problem in the present moment we are usually actively dealing with it. If you are concerned about your present, ask yourself a few questions. Am I hungry, am I warm, do I have shelter, and am I in pain? If your answer to any of those questions is yes, your first actions should be to pursue a course to improve your situation. You must take care of yourself first. If your answers are appropriate, then all is well with you and you are free to deal with any outside issues.
If we don't worry about the past and we are presently doing fine, then what do we worry about? The future. It is a time and space that is not promised to us. I found that the only way to stop worry about my future was to actively prepare for it in the present time and space. Spend your time working on the solution to the situation that could occur in your future. An example: You have lost your job and not made a mortgage payment in two months. Any cash you have goes toward food. You are worried that you and your family will end up on the street. What happens three months from now if you worry and do absolutely nothing about your situation? Yes, you and your family could end up on the street. Instead of worrying, spend your time working on a solution to your problem and this will not happen to you and your family. If you believe in god, there is a saying. GOD does not move parked cars. Get moving, believe, if blindly and magic will begin to happen.
To stop worrying, spend your time working on a solution to the problem and even more importantly, think about how wonderful the solution will be. When you think about the solution, by all means feel really good about it. Get your emotions involved in the solution? Take baby steps if you must. This is how you do that. The moment you catch yourself worrying-stop and concentrate on the solution you want to occur for you. Think, visualize, picture the best outcome in your mind and feel great about it. Hold that thought for as long as you can. Make it a picture show in your mind. You will enjoy your movie. After all you have a negative movie running when you worry.
We do not worry about the past or present; we only worry about the future. Only you can change your future. You cannot have two emotions going at the same time. Worry and fear or joy and peace. You can worry or you can think positively about the best solution and feel good about it. You decide.
Albert Einstein said: "Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attraction."
This article may be passed on to anyone however, keep the contact information in place.
If you would like to see how Harriette makes her income click here.
Love, tolerance and peace,
Harriette Blye
You are worth a Million Bucks!
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Affirmations
What does affirm mean? It means to assert positively; to tell with confidence; to maintain as true; opposed to deny. I really love the meaning of this word. We really could stop this article at this point because the definition is so exact and so clear.
Affirmations are popular and powerful because they are simple, easy and they work. Affirmations reprogram your thought process, they change the way you think and feel. With affirmations you can replace negative beliefs that have been sabotaging you and no longer serve you with new beliefs that are positive and effective in making real changes in your life.
With affirmations you can turn failure into success, you can turn a sour and negative attitude into a great and joyful attitude. You can change bad health into vibrant good health. In other words affirmations can enable you to achieve the life you have always dreamed of having.
There are many ways to affirm. Affirmations can be verbal, mental or written but there is a certain format that make them work.
· The statements must be positive. When your subconscious connect with the statement “I don’t have money to pay my bills.” It picks up the “don’t have” and gives you more of what you “don’t have.” The goal here is to target subconscious negative beliefs and replace them with positive nurturing beliefs.
· They must be formatted in the present as if they already exist. You would not say, “I plan to have money to pay my bills.” Plan is a future event.
· You must include yourself. I am, I Jane or I in the first person.
· You must be consistent with repeating your affirmations
Keep your affirmations short, clear and so simple a child would understand them.
This is a simple, clear and positive example of an affirmation: If you weight 180 pounds and your goal is to weigh 155 pounds you would state this: “I Jane Doe am healthy and I weight 155 pounds.”
Don’t concern yourself about what diet you will use, what exercise program you will use. Those things will open up for you. You add the word “healthy” because you could get sick and loose the weight. This would not be good. State what you want and not what you do not want.
The example above happened to me. I found it so interesting that I suddenly began to walk more, I watched what I ate, not dieting, I love swimming so I did that as much as possible. Suddenly my clothes fit and people began to comment about my weight loss. It was easy and so much fun. Almost automatic. No stress. I was delighted.
If you want money to pay your bills you would state this: “I Jane Doe have more than enough money to pay all of my bills.”
When you affirm these statements over time you really begin to believe them as true and your subconscious has no choice but to make this happen for you. It also helps to add this statement at the end of your affirmation. “ I accept this or something better.” This shows you are not trying to control how you get what you intend to have.
An affirm statement goes like this: “ I have a wonderful job in sales that pay me $75,000 a year. I accept this or something better.”
When first using affirmations go easy on yourself. If you weight 300 pounds and want to lose 150 pounds affirm the weight lose in 25 pounds increments. If you earned 30,000 in your last sales job consider affirming $100,000 a year.
Affirming $1,000,000 could happen but only if your belief system is in place. Continually repeating affirmations with conviction will chip away at the strongest resistance. If you use affirmations correctly they can manifest real and positive change in your life.
When you affirm your statements you believe they are true. Your mind cannot hold two conflicting thoughts.
You can speak your affirmations out loud and in front of a mirror. Try saying, “I like myself” in front of a mirror and not smile. Look yourself straight in the eye and affirm your message with emotion. The more emotion you exhibit the faster they will appear for you.
You can sing your affirmations. Make a tune to hum and sing throughout your day. This is fun.
You may choose to write your affirmations. Write them (10-20) times. Write them down each morning when you first get up or in the evening before you go to sleep. This imprints them on your brain.
You can record your affirmations on your recorder or MP3 player. I use this approach.
No matter which way you choose to affirm I know for a fact they work. I have used affirmations for many years to change bad habits and to get from life exactly what I want. With affirmations you can live your life by design not by default. So get started and have fun. Start with something you really want and affirm it in the present tense as if you already have it.
No matter what you are dealing with or what problems you would like help with affirmations can make you feel better about yourself and your life. Affirmations work well with visualizations. Check that out.
Love, tolerance and peace
Harriette Blye
Harriette is a Wife, Mom, Successful Internet Marketer, Registered Respiratory Therapist, former General Motors Car Dealer, started and operated her own successful Staffing Agency and Advertising Weekly Newspaper, Writer, Pubic Speaker, Artist, Baby Boomer and she is doing it her way.
Click here to see how Harriette earns her money.
Affirmations are popular and powerful because they are simple, easy and they work. Affirmations reprogram your thought process, they change the way you think and feel. With affirmations you can replace negative beliefs that have been sabotaging you and no longer serve you with new beliefs that are positive and effective in making real changes in your life.
With affirmations you can turn failure into success, you can turn a sour and negative attitude into a great and joyful attitude. You can change bad health into vibrant good health. In other words affirmations can enable you to achieve the life you have always dreamed of having.
There are many ways to affirm. Affirmations can be verbal, mental or written but there is a certain format that make them work.
· The statements must be positive. When your subconscious connect with the statement “I don’t have money to pay my bills.” It picks up the “don’t have” and gives you more of what you “don’t have.” The goal here is to target subconscious negative beliefs and replace them with positive nurturing beliefs.
· They must be formatted in the present as if they already exist. You would not say, “I plan to have money to pay my bills.” Plan is a future event.
· You must include yourself. I am, I Jane or I in the first person.
· You must be consistent with repeating your affirmations
Keep your affirmations short, clear and so simple a child would understand them.
This is a simple, clear and positive example of an affirmation: If you weight 180 pounds and your goal is to weigh 155 pounds you would state this: “I Jane Doe am healthy and I weight 155 pounds.”
Don’t concern yourself about what diet you will use, what exercise program you will use. Those things will open up for you. You add the word “healthy” because you could get sick and loose the weight. This would not be good. State what you want and not what you do not want.
The example above happened to me. I found it so interesting that I suddenly began to walk more, I watched what I ate, not dieting, I love swimming so I did that as much as possible. Suddenly my clothes fit and people began to comment about my weight loss. It was easy and so much fun. Almost automatic. No stress. I was delighted.
If you want money to pay your bills you would state this: “I Jane Doe have more than enough money to pay all of my bills.”
When you affirm these statements over time you really begin to believe them as true and your subconscious has no choice but to make this happen for you. It also helps to add this statement at the end of your affirmation. “ I accept this or something better.” This shows you are not trying to control how you get what you intend to have.
An affirm statement goes like this: “ I have a wonderful job in sales that pay me $75,000 a year. I accept this or something better.”
When first using affirmations go easy on yourself. If you weight 300 pounds and want to lose 150 pounds affirm the weight lose in 25 pounds increments. If you earned 30,000 in your last sales job consider affirming $100,000 a year.
Affirming $1,000,000 could happen but only if your belief system is in place. Continually repeating affirmations with conviction will chip away at the strongest resistance. If you use affirmations correctly they can manifest real and positive change in your life.
When you affirm your statements you believe they are true. Your mind cannot hold two conflicting thoughts.
You can speak your affirmations out loud and in front of a mirror. Try saying, “I like myself” in front of a mirror and not smile. Look yourself straight in the eye and affirm your message with emotion. The more emotion you exhibit the faster they will appear for you.
You can sing your affirmations. Make a tune to hum and sing throughout your day. This is fun.
You may choose to write your affirmations. Write them (10-20) times. Write them down each morning when you first get up or in the evening before you go to sleep. This imprints them on your brain.
You can record your affirmations on your recorder or MP3 player. I use this approach.
No matter which way you choose to affirm I know for a fact they work. I have used affirmations for many years to change bad habits and to get from life exactly what I want. With affirmations you can live your life by design not by default. So get started and have fun. Start with something you really want and affirm it in the present tense as if you already have it.
No matter what you are dealing with or what problems you would like help with affirmations can make you feel better about yourself and your life. Affirmations work well with visualizations. Check that out.
Love, tolerance and peace
Harriette Blye
Harriette is a Wife, Mom, Successful Internet Marketer, Registered Respiratory Therapist, former General Motors Car Dealer, started and operated her own successful Staffing Agency and Advertising Weekly Newspaper, Writer, Pubic Speaker, Artist, Baby Boomer and she is doing it her way.
Click here to see how Harriette earns her money.
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